If there is one thing that I am completely thankful for in my marriage, it would be that we have agreed to have a Christ-centered marriage. There is no doubt that our individual faith is strong, but together, it becomes stronger.
Our marriage was a life time commitment that we made in front of Christ and our family. Do you remember the part in the vows that said “For better or for worse.” “For richer or for poorer.” “In sickness or in health.”? I HATE the word “or”. Absolutely hate it. That is where people find their loop holes; their easy way out. “I agreed to this marriage only for the good times when we aren’t fighting.” “I entered this marriage in hopes that we would never struggle to make ends meet.” or worse yet, “I didn’t expect my husband/wife to become diagnosed with the life threatening disease that is going to cost a lot of money to treat. I don’t want to spend that kind of money” Or, take your pick of applicable comments that you have heard in regards to the vows.
When Shane and I said our vows, we took an approach that showed our commitment to our marriage. “For better and for worse.” “For richer and for poorer.” “In sickness and in health.” Because lets face it, there will be differences of opinions, there will be disagreements, there will be times where we will struggle to make ends meet, and there may be times where our health is not in top shape. But those things do not have to mean that our marriage is on the brink.
However, society as cut marriage down into this thing that is disposable when you find yourself bored or in a lustful situation. What happened to the “Until death do us part.”?
One of the best decisions that we made was to make sure that Christ is at the center; even on our tough days. It’s not always easy but it’s something that we need to find time for.
Want to know how we do it? Surprisingly, it’s 3 simple things.
1.) Attend Church Together
We started attending Cornerstone at the beginning of September. It’s been a wonderful change for us! Having a home church gives us a sense of accountability in our faith. It also offers us spiritual support. Our church family is amazing when it comes to loving one another, supporting one another, and encouraging one another. Our church also partakes in “Service Sundays.” Those are the Sundays that we are able to help people in the community with projects.
Since we’ve started going to Cornerstone in September, we have missed only a handful of days, but we are able tell the difference from when we attend and when we don’t. If our “reset” button isn’t pressed, we end up experiencing a long week and end up with what seems like more trials than usual.
When was the last time you worshiped with your spouse?
2.) Read The Bible Together
This is something new that we have started within the last month or so. It started a couple of months ago with taking turns between the 4 of us each night reading different Bible verses and explaining what they meant to us or how they related to our lives. Then Shane and I began our nightly devotional by reading Proverbs. Reading and studying the Word together not only builds each other up in their relationship with Christ but encourages keeping Christ in the middle of our marriage.
3.) Pray Together
This is also something new we’ve started. We used to pray individually throughout the day but that didn’t help the other in their journey. First, it began with concerns that we had. Slowly, it’s evolved into something much bigger, more involved, and more heartfelt. We’ve started praying for other that we know are struggling, for feelings that we may have felt over the day, and situations that are “God-sized” issues.
One of the verses that we had read at our wedding was Ecclesiastes 4:12: “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not easily broken.”
When I think of that verse, I think about all different types of strands. For example, a single thread that is hanging off of your shift can be easily broken off. If you take two pieces of string/cord/fabric/etc. and twist them together, there is nothing that can hold them together. They will almost always unwind themselves and you are back to two separate strings/cords/fabrics/etc. Then we come to the image of a cord. A three strand woven cord. The image that comes to my mind is the thick, coarse tie ups that large ships use. You know, the ones that look unbreakable?
That cord is how I view my marriage. The cord is made up with Shane on one side, I’m on the other, and Christ is the middle strand that weaves us together.
Because of that third strand that weaves us together, there are no loop holes; no easy way out. Sorry, honey. You are stuck with me.
“Until death do us part.”