Last night, I curled up on the couch and turned on Dancing with the Stars (DWTS). For those of you who watched it, you know how emotional the episode was. It was “Most Memorable Years” for the celebrities.
Tamar chose the year 2012. She was taking a vacation with her husband, Vince, when he started to complain about not feeling well. They ended up in a New York emergency room where they found out that he had multiple blood clots in his lungs. They put him in an induced a coma for 40 days and Tamar stayed with him the whole time.
One thought that Tamar expressed is that she wasn’t sure how she would be able to live without the love of her life should he not pull through. She then stated “I will forever be grateful because I don’t even know what I did in my life to be blessed this much.”
She hit the nail on the head!
There are times where I will just sit and stare at Shane and begin to think of all the memories we have made and all of the memories we have yet to make. There isn’t a day where I don’t thank God for giving me the gift of a husband and the kids. I would be devastated if something were happen to any of them that would be life threatening.
Then, the last dance of the night was Bindi. Thank goodness she was last because I don’t know if I’ve ever cried so much watching a segment of a show.
The year that Bindi chose was 2006; the year that her father, Steve Irwin, passed away. She was only 8 when he passed away but she showed such strength and support for those around her. She was able to use her fathers death as a way to prove how short and how precious life is. This dance that was so filled with high emotions earned her the first 10 of the season!
So, being the “thinker” that I am, I turned to Shane and asked what his most memorable year was. I was thinking something along the lines of the years that the kids were born, the year he was sworn into the military, or even the year that he defended our freedom. To my surprise, he said “The one we are currently in. Look how much has happened!” Well, he’s right. So far, from October 2014-October 2015 we have gotten engaged, got married, redid the kitchen in our rental home, celebrated gains, mourned losses, bought our first home, took a vacation, and celebrated our marriage with family and friends.
But then after he shared his, I got to thinking, I can’t even narrow down to my most memorable year because I have memorable years.
To begin, 2007. Yes, you read that right. I was 17 and a junior in high school. I went through some trying times and learned quickly that the “All-Knowing” teenager really wasn’t all that knowing…about anything. After some counseling and a decision to become a born again Christian, I began to turn my life around.
2012. I entered my first engagement. At the time, it was a very exciting time for me. But, looking back, my heart wasn’t in the right place and we were in a relationship where we did not bring out the best in each other. In fact, it was quite the opposite – I sacrificed a lot of my hobbies and my wants to satisfy his addictions and needs. Which, at the time, didn’t seem like a big deal. But paying $15 per month for a game where you have to spend a minimum of an hour to even start advancing started taking it’s toll on my pocket book as well as my health, my job, and my relationship with him. There were also times where there were situations that were not handled with respect and care when they should have been. “Be slow to speak” has never been more true.
2013. I ended the engagement with less than 4 weeks to go until the wedding. What drove me to that point? Well, him taking a job 2 1/2 hours away from where I was working and moving away. I had a lot of time to sit and think about who I was and what I enjoyed to do with my time. Being with him wasn’t what I saw in my future. I didn’t want to be in a big city (remember, farm raised. I don’t do well with city traffic or congested housing), I didn’t see myself working at a high end retailer, bank, or high end anything for that matter.
I spent 3 months doing a lot of soul searching, a lot of praying, and a lot of recovering. I had been praying to God to send me a sign that I was on the right path or to show me what I could have if I continued to follow Him. In November 2013, He showed me who my husband was going to be.
2014. I began to take a journey with Shane. We only stepped foot onto a path pleasing to God knowing that we were both ready, that we both had the same end goal in mind, and that we would hold each other accountable to the other as well as to Christ. We began supporting one another and walking alongside one another while still trying to uphold our morals and values that we held so close.
2015. I got engaged to and married my soul mate, my best friend, I inherited 2 children who have been such blessings. We were able to find a home that fit perfectly every need that we had. We’ve enjoyed being a family and experiencing things that we both once only dreamed of.
Each of these years had a significant hand in molding me to who I have become today. Each year being a stepping stone to prepare me for the next.
Like Tamar had stated, I’m not sure I will ever know what I did so right in my life (when I felt like all I was doing was wrong) that lead me to being so blessed.
In my opinion, the Judge ruled, and gave me the perfect 10.
But no matter what we go through or what we experience, I will give thanks to the One who made it all possible. And much like the dancers on DWTS take the judges comments as things to improve on over the next week, I can take what He has shown us we need to improve on and strive to better please Him. I will never be His perfect 10 because I am human and I have a sinful nature. No one will be able to be His perfect 10; there is not one person without sin.
Life is truly precious and we need to embrace all that He has done for us and begin living for Him instead of living for ourselves. He truly does wonderful things when He is put first in your life.
What year(s) do you feel were your most memorable?