This morning, I saw something from my past that really brought the last couple of years of my life into a new perspective.
My TimeHop said that 4 years ago, I wrote a status that read:
“It’s not about having a ‘perfect’ relationship. It’s about finding someone who will be there through everything without giving up.”
It’s been almost 3 years since Shane and I began this crazy journey that we are on. Sometimes, I just sit back and think about all that has happened and think “It’s only been 3 years?” Other times, I sit back and think “That 3 years has gone by so quickly.”
I look back on all of the church events, school events, family trips, lazy evenings at home, and other events that have been such blessings in our lives. We’ve gained friends, we’ve lost friends, we’ve changed jobs, we’ve had really positive experiences, and we’ve had some not so positive experiences.
But I keep going back to one thing; all of these experiences would have had a completely different impact if it was anyone other than Shane standing by my side. (Side note: None of these probably would have happened if Shane wasn’t by my side because my life would have been completely different.)
One of the most exciting things we’ve been through thus far is finding out that our family was growing by 2 little feet. I found out back in May while Shane was in California that we were expecting a new bundle of joy! He had his suspicions before he left but anything can happen in those early weeks! Since he was at training, I was unable to call him so I wrote him a letter and sent him a picture of the “6 week”ultrasound to let him know that he was going to be a dad again! We battled a lot of sickness and some health scares with this pregnancy but thankfully, through a lot of prayers, we found out at our 20 week appointment that our little BOY was strong, stubborn, and most of all; healthy. After looking at the few ultrasounds that we have, I’ve decided that the little bugger has my nose and Shane’s mouth. He is the cutest little thing but of course, my opinion is biased.
We’ve also been through some not so fun stuff. I won’t go into detail because while we were able to make our way through it, some of it is better off not shared. But I will say this on it:
I am really glad that Shane and I have our faith to lean on when things begin to go sideways in our lives. There has been numerous times throughout the last five months that we have been put in a position where all we could do is pray and lean on His word. In short, the passage of
“…Be satisfied with what you have, for He Himself has said, I will never leave your or forsake you. Therefore, we may boldly say: The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me? … Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever.” ~Hebrews 13:5-6, 8
is nothing short true. Man can sit and try to throw things at us to tear us apart, but in the end, we have a mighty warrior on our side who will never abandon us because of all the “junk” in our lives.
But all that being said, my relationship with Shane has not faltered. Have we had moments of weakness? Sure. But never once have I questioned my decision to be with him. The only questions I ever held were for the outside sources who thought they pulled one over on us. He has been my rock and my supporter from day one. We may not have the ‘perfect’ relationship to those who may look at us, but for us, I couldn’t have asked for a better fit.
The same goes for my relationship with Christ. I am human. There have been times/are times where I go against what He has commanded me to do and how I should live. But He doesn’t turn his cheek on me when the going gets tough. Instead, He stretches out his arms and loves me unconditionally no matter the bumps and bruises that I’ve gathered along the way.
In reality, no one will ever have that ‘perfect’ relationship. There will be trials. There will be stress. There will be outside opinions. But if you can look at the other person at the end of the day, take a deep breath and say “I love you” and mean every word of it, that’s when you know that you are in the ‘perfect’ relationship.