Day 20:
The last argument that you had.

Well, I try not to argue too much.  And honestly, I cannot think of my last actual argument.  Everything has either been respectfully discussed or brought to attention and then ignored.  I guess I’m ok with this because I hate confrontation and I hate fighting, but when it comes to my family, I’ll fight tooth and nail.



Hugs, Ice Cream, and Respect.

Day 18:
Disrespecting parents.

Ha!  Ask M&M how I feel about that!!  I hate it.  I especially hate when it happens in public.  Seeing these kids that scream and yell at their parents while they just stand back and let it happen.  You are training your child to be entitled individuals in society.  Shane and I work really hard with the kids on respect.  Not just in their words but in their actions as well.  Actions as siblings, actions as our children, actions for a future relationship, etc.

Day 19:
Something that never fails to make you feel better.

Hugs from my husband and DQ ice cream.  In that order.  Nothing can beat the sincerity and the security of Shane’s hugs.  It’s a feeling that I cannot explain to you.  And who doesn’t like ice cream?  Thank goodness for blizzard punch cards!!


Personality And Fears

I am seriously the worst at remembering this thing!   Yikes!

Day 16:
3 things you are proud of about your personality.

Well, lets see.  I have become more loving towards others.  I used to judge on actions or first impressions, a lot.  I’ve gotten rid of that because I wouldn’t want someone to do that to me; especially if I’m just having a rough day.
I’ve become sacrificial.  When children come into your life, the first thing that you learn how to do is give up what you want so that they can get what they want or need (within reason of course!).  I used to go out and get new outfits quite often, but now, I would rather spend that money on baking goods so we can bake together, tickets to Valley Fair so we can travel as a family, or spoil them with something that they have wanted for a while.  It doesn’t happen too often because they do have to work for what they get, but I have given up a lot of the little spendy things in my life to help provide for them.  I’m also sacrificial towards my husband.  I would give up my happiness to make sure that he is happy.
I am forgiving.  I used to hold grudges and hold them hard.  But, I realize that everyone is human and everyone makes mistakes.  The only thing that I can do is accept that, forgive them even if they do not ask for it, and move along.

Day 17:
Things that make you scared

Well, I hate bats, mice and heights.  All acquired fears.  Otherwise, I’m scared of being alone.  I know that sounds really stupid, but I hate being lonely.  So my apologies go out to Shane for blowing up his phone while he is gone.  My apologies also to those on Facebook and to the kids for talking as much (or as little) as I have been.  I’m trying to stay strong but it’s hard when a major part of your life is removed and uncertainty lingers.



So again, I fell behind on this blog challenge because I’m terrible at remembering things.  Time to catch up.

Day 13:
A date you would love to go on

Honestly, as long as my husband has put effort and thought into it, that’s all I need.  We don’t need to spend a lot of money, and we don’t need to travel too terribly far.  Our first date was probably the most simplest dates but I loved it.


Day 14:
Something disgusting that you do

Um.  Well, quite honestly, I don’t know.  The worst thing that I can think of right off the top of my head is that I chew my nails when I’m stressed or anxious.  Other than that, I have good hygiene habits because I hate being dirty and I hate how fast germs spread.  Sorry to disappoint.  :/

Day 15:
The best thing to happen to you this week.

Well, quite honestly, this past week has been rough.  I’ve had my ups and I’ve had more than my fair share of downs.  But, slowly but surely, the end of this is coming.  But I’ve had a lot of good things happen to me this week.  The kids have been outstanding, today I am celebrating one year since Shane and I kicked off our “deal breaker week” (well, one year ago today I texted him and things just fell into place), and today I get a special delivery (which I’m really excited for!).  I’ve also been able to talk with Shane quite a bit (when he has service) so that has also been a blessing.


Dear Ex.

Well, it’s that time of day again!  Challenge time!

Day 12:
Things you want to say to an ex.

Well, I have a lot of things I would like to say.  But most of those are better off left as thoughts.  “Be slow to speak.”

So instead all I have to say is this:

I will pray for all of you.  That you may know the difference between knowledge and arrogance, that you may learn to think before you speak, and that you may find that special someone that you want to treat with respect and love without end.

I would also like to thank all of you for helping me build different characteristics to get me to where I am today.  Your actions and your words knocked me down but also helped build me back up.  Without the trials, I would not be where I am today.


My Last Kiss.

Day 9:
Your last kiss.

My last kiss would be my husband as he went out the door this morning.  I guess I’m not sure what I’m supposed to say about it?  :/  Sorry to disappoint but it’s on the challenge…sooooo… I had to do it…


Worry Wart.

Day 8:
Something that you are currently worrying about?

Well, I would be lying if I said nothing.  I have one current “worry” and that is Shane’s upcoming trip up north for the Guards.  I hate when he goes on those extended trips because of all the garbage (adultery, severe intoxication, etc) that goes on up there.

I know I don’t have to worry about him but it’s the fact that he is surrounded by people who continuously do these things.  They have zero respect for those around them who respect their wives, they have zero respect for those who choose to not drink heavily and they have no respect for upper command.

I feel that he needs to feel appreciated and I can only do so much of that from this far away.


Cheating And Faithfulness.

Day 7:
Your opinion on cheating people?

Somehow I knew that this was either going to be an easy one to write or a difficult one.

I hate cheating.  I do not see the point in it.

I was accused of being a cheater in one of my previous relationships as well as at the beginning of my relationship with Shane.  Thankfully, I was able to put (most) of the rumors to rest but people will believe what they want and it doesn’t really matter what you say or how you feel.

I believe that there is no point in getting into a relationship if you are not going to be faithful and devote your undivided attention to your partner.

Hebrews 13:4 tells us that “Marriage must be respected by all, and the marriage bed kept undefiled, because God will judge immoral people and adulterers.”

But it isn’t just marriage; it is any committed relationship that you are in.  If you aren’t happy, leave.  People will respect you more for doing what is best for yourself or for the other person (or the children if any are involved) instead of going behind backs just to be with another.



Being Alone.

Well, I am adding to my material.  So on top of my faith related topics that I do, I’ll be starting this 30-day blog challenge.  So expect to see multiple posts from me per day!  (Yeah, I didn’t think it would be that exciting)

DAY 1:
Weird things you do when you are alone.

Well, I don’t feel that anything I do is especially odd.  But I guess if I had to choose a few things, the first would be that I squish the dogs faces when I talk to them; but I do that when people are home too sooooo…

Other than that, I guess I sing obnoxiously loud (and terribly) and prance/hop/run around the house to the radio/Pandora/whatever I have on.

Also, with Shane leaving for camp, by bedtime habits become unusual.  I will lay on the couch and watch TV until I fall asleep.  I’ll sleep on the couch for a couple of hours and then I will go to the bedroom.  I hate the feeling of an empty bed so I avoid it as much as possible.  Kind of makes me wonder how I could sleep in an empty bed before…

What are some weird things that you do?


I Confess…

I found this on a blog done by Annalise Mishler (which, you should check out her blogs.  INSPIRING!) and thought that it would be something fun that I could do.

So, here goes nothing!

I Confess…
I have a love hate relationship with being a military wife.  I love everything that Shane stands for a most of the things that he does.  I love that he felt the calling to serve his country and acted upon it.  However, I hate the time apart, I hate the distance, I hate the unrealistic expectations, and I hate the lack of respect for family and faith that comes with it.

I Confess…
We have spoiled our dogs to the point where every time we sit on the couch, one or the other (and sometimes both) will jump up in our laps.

I Confess…
Being a step-mom is the most rewarding (and stressful) job that I’ve ever held.  I love those kids as my own, and the amount of pride I feel when they succeed in anything is beyond measure.  But the anger and frustration that I feel when they disrespect and pitch attitude is just as strong as the sense of pride.

I Confess…
I’ve gotten so wrapped up in life and all of the chaos that it is, I have forgotten what hobbies I have.  Instead of reaching for a book in my down time, I reach for a pillow and blanket.

I Confess…
I love my job.  I’ve never felt for respected, more valued, and more of an asset to a company than I do at my current job.  I’m given tasks to do and if I don’t know how to do it, they are quick to teach me.  It’s nice to be a part of a team where I am viewed as a team member.

I Confess…
I hate our cat (Well, M’s cat but we take care of it.)…most days.  She is Satan in fur form.  She rips things apart (including skin), she uses the floors, closets, cupboards, etc as her bathroom when we make her angry, she consistently knocks things off tables and counters, she claws at our feet, legs, arms and hands whenever we get near her and she doesn’t want us to.  But, then there is the super cuddly, lovey, adorable side that comes out about once every 9 days.  She is also a playmate for the dogs and they (or at least Hugo) would be heartbroken if we got rid of her.

I Confess…
Shane and I are what I consider “traditionalists”.  We were trying to do things the right way when we started dating – man takes woman out, man respects woman, we stay in our separate homes, etc etc etc.  That was our goal.  However, due to things discussed in Some Friend You Were, he opened his doors so I had a safe place to go.  Somehow, we still managed to respect our morals and values during that time.

I Confess…
I bake, cook, and clean when I get stressed, frustrated or sad.  Shane will probably return to a spotless house, pre-cooked meals for the next month, and enough baked goods to last us until next year.

I Confess…
Shane and I watched CatDog and Rugrats before work this morning. (THANK YOU, DVR!)  90’s cartoons are probably the best thing we’ve found lately.  Next on the list is Hey, Arnold, Angry Beavers, and Rocko’s Modern Life.

I Confess…
I use my blog for therapy.  There are some of the stupidest things that happen in my life and sometimes I just need to write to get it all out or to explain it in a way that my words can’t.  If you read back in some of my old blogs, you would think some of that is made up – it’s not.  Those situations that happen with the kids – they are real.  Some conversations I’ve overheard – those actually took place.

I Confess…
I am an open book.  I love when people ask me questions about myself or my life or my thoughts on something.  I cannot urge you enough to ask me something if you desire to know.  I will tell you.  I will be honest.

I Confess…
We have 14 Bibles in our house.  We have a “My First Bible” (1), the kids “Deep Blue Sea” bibles (2), military Bibles Shane got on tour (3), his grandma’s Bible (1), his first bible (1), my first bible (1), this kids’ new Apologetics Bibles (2), the New Testament pocket Bible (2) and my Lutheran Study Bible (1).  We also have a Life Application Bible coming hopefully within the next couple of weeks!  That will make 15.  And get this… we use them all.

I Confess…
This blog has put me in a “happy place.”  I am struggling with the fact that I will be on my own for the next 5 days.  I will come home from work to an empty house.  I will wake up alone.  I will go to bed alone.  But I’ll be ok.  I have to stay focused on the positives and keep busy with things that need to be done.

I challenge all of you to participate in the “I Confess…” blog.  It’s actually pretty fun!  Tag me in it so I can see it as well!