The step away. The much-needed breath of fresh air to be able to bond with my new family, analyze where I have been and where I want to go, and to try to find my purpose and drive behind this blog.
If you’ve followed me for any amount of time or ran across my blog in a web search somehow, there is no secret it is faith-based. I have a strong foundation in my marriage and in our family that is on our faith. But after having been through some of the things we have been through over the last few years, I would be lying if I said my faith wasn’t shaken a little bit. Not in the sense that I lost it, but more in the sense of “Why?” “Why us and why now?”
I needed that time away from the keyboard to come to peace with a lot of things. Things ranging from family, to work, to faith, to just general anxiety about the new road laid in front of us.
When I last left you, I was about to have a baby. What an experience that was! We welcomed our handsome little fellow January 31 and fell in love immediately. He has such an amazing birth story – one that maybe in time I will tell, but for now, I will just say God is good and blessed us that week. Everyone, meet our spunky almost 6 month old (where has the time gone!?), Elijah. ❤
Shane and I have learned a lot over the last 6 months. He’s experiencing being a dad all over again (and loving every minute of it!). We are learning Eli is a perfect mix of mom and dad. Although, he gets his spunky attitude from is Auntie Bee and Uncle Derek. (He loves them too!)
We’ve loved spending the much-needed time with family and watching Eli grow and learn. But while watching him grow, we’ve also done some growing.
When I returned to work after maternity leave, I worked my tail off for one week fixing errors, making phone calls, and cleaning up messes only to be let go after everything was back to par. I asked for a reason and they had nothing to lean on other than “Minnesota is an at will state, and we can let you go for no reason.” Well, ladies and gents, let me tell you why:
They couldn’t handle the fact that I wasn’t able to work 6-7 days a week and 60+ hour weeks while trying to care for my newborn son. They didn’t like that when it came down to brass tacks, I was not willing to sacrifice my family for the sake of the company.
This was the point where my faith hit a low. Our new family of 5 was cut down to a single income. I battled with the fact we (I) were (was) being punished. I struggled with the fact that God has blessed me with a child I was never supposed to have but it came at a price. I would even go as far as to say I was angry at Him. But, really, I had no reason to be. The job was stressful and thankless. I had wanted to find a family friendly place of employment for quite some time. But did it really have to come at this price?
Man, I struggled and wrestled with this for a while. But over that period of time, I was able to dig into a Bible study called “No More Perfection” and it dealt with the need to be ‘perfect’ in every way. I knew I was struggling with emotions and feelings so the first thing I did was write this sticky note and threw it in my purse.
When I struggled, I’d pull it out and pick one and read. But there was one I found a couple of months back that I didn’t add to my sticky note. But it was one I found through another Bible study that really hit home and started the “closure” process for me.
“Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord.” ~Hebrews 12:14
That was the point where I started reflecting back onto this blog. If my goal was to minister to people through real life experiences, I needed to find peace. I needed that peace for everything that had happened in our lives for the last four years. I needed to be able to let go of the anger, bitterness, and maybe a small amount of jealousy that I held onto.
Prayer, prayer, and more prayer. Maybe a few more “why me”‘s in there than I would like to admit, but I’m human. There are times I cannot process my emotion in a ‘healthy’ way.
Then, after a couple of months of prayer, I found a job that I love. (Or maybe it found me? (: ) I mean, it couldn’t be a better fit for what I was needing and looking for.
But all that being said, I still felt like a piece of me was missing, and I knew exactly what it was. But, I made a promise to myself that I would not touch this blog site again until I could do a couple of things:
1. Find closure in ALL things.
2. Find a way to minister without coming off as pushy or gloating
3. Find a way to love my family and myself the way that God loves us – unconditionally.
4. Find a way to relate my life experiences with the same experiences that some of you may be going through (this one is going to be tough as we are all at different places in our lives)
Until I could move beyond all the yuck, no one would see the Lord in what I was saying, they would only see me. I don’t want you to just see me when you come here. I want you to be able to experience the Truth and see all of the miracles that God can do for you. I mean, for us, Elijah is living proof of that!
I was able to do 3 of the 4 so now we are here.
After 6 months of prayer, heavy thought, and a push from a new blogger, I took that step. With a little encouragement from The Soap Box , I signed in, said a prayer, and let my heart and feelings pour out.
I’m hoping that this is just the beginning of a newly rejuvenated blog. I hope to keep you all updated and post more often as my spirit is led. ❤
Until next time!
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